Happy 2014!

Jan. 3rd, 2014 09:32 pm
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Good Things I Did in 2013:

* Spent lots of quality time with good friends
* Lots of writing
* Lots of reading
* Sold a short story, saw another one in print after selling it in late 2012
* Saw Bonnie Langford perform again
* Visited Rome for the first time
* Went to Vidukon, one of my favourite cons ever
* Attended not one but two folk festivals
* Went to Nine Worlds, one of my other favourite cons ever
* GOT MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!! (Seriously you guys it was wicked awesome)
* Pitched to two different literary agents
* Visited the delightful city of Bristol for the first time
* Saw Vienna Teng live
* Went to Bletchley Park
* Sang in my third big concert with my choir

Good Things I Plan/Hope to Do in 2014:

* Spend lots of quality time with good friends, both the ones happily nearby and the ones harder to reach
* Lots of writing
* Lots of reading
* Get a novel published - I've hoped for this at the beginning of every year since I can remember, and I haven't achieved it yet but every year it doesn't happen teaches me more about how I might eventually get there
* Get a new job - my job was ideal until it wasn't. Regardless of how convenient it is in some ways, I need something more interesting and challenging
* Visit Iceland and Japan - the first is coming up in a couple of weeks, the second's in April! We are very spoiled this year
* Attend Vidukon and Nine Worlds, and probably at least one folk festival
* See more live music - Taylor Swift and Dar Williams are already locked in, I'm looking out for more, and I'm also hoping to catch up on some musical theatre soon
* Generally have epic adventures

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[personal profile] raven said: If you don't mind talking about it, how's married life?

I don't mind talking about it! (And actually, yesterday was our three-month-iversary, so it seems like a nice time to talk about it.) So far it's, in some ways, exactly what I expected - that is, just the same as it was before. We were already living together and we already knew we wanted to spend our lives together, so getting married was more an affirmation of where we already were than a step into something new.

And yet, it is a tiny bit different. Just in small ways. Like, I like the word 'wife' better than any of the other words we've used to describe our relationship. I do like 'partner' for its simplicity but it's just ambiguous enough to lead to awkward misinterpretations, and you'd think 'girlfriend' would be fairly obvious but the amount of times I've talked about 'my girlfriend' and had people go 'oh, so what does your... friend do?' etc. And 'fiancée' always led to: 'what's his name?' 'her name is Cara...' and then the OTT gushing about how wonderful that is and isn't it nice that you can do that now, which I don't mind because it's well-intentioned but it does get a bit embarrassing. As a word, 'wife' is unambiguous and implies permanence, both of which, for our relationship, I like. And it's just kind of fun to say.

Changing my name has been an interesting experience too. I took Cara's surname for a variety of reasons, and although it's weird to get used to, I'm quite enjoying it. I'm less enjoying the hassle changing it caused with my work email address/log-ins being messed up, and I'm quite put out by the people noticing the change and asking "oh, did you marry someone Welsh?" when I was Welsh all along and Cara, in spite of having a very Welsh-sounding surname, is barely even a tiny bit Welsh. But I like the balance it gives my name - my first name is Welsh to the point of being unpronounceable for some people, and I mostly use my middle name for simplicity, but having a more Welsh last name makes me feel better about that in a weird way. (I'm keeping my original full name for writing, though.)

In terms of how day-to-day married life has been, like I said, pretty much the same as it was before. Although with added work stress for both of us for various reasons, but minus wedding planning and nerves. I miss the wedding planning a little bit, but mostly I'm relieved that it's done. I miss the actual wedding more - it was such a wonderful day full of people we love and who love us, and it felt really special. Some people who follow me on here know that I haven't had the best track record with family members accepting my relationship/identity, and although I don't need anyone's approval to be with Cara, it felt wonderful to know how much support and love surrounds us. The thing that's made married life noticeably different so far is I'm still feeling the ripples from that day, remembering how happy it was and how kind everyone was to us.

And of course Cara herself is as perfect as ever, and a constant delight, and I'm so excited to see where we go next.
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An update!

1) The wedding! It was lovely! A really fun, informal, loving day, full of friends and family and niceness. A few pics here on my Tumblr for anyone curious. [personal profile] carawj looked beautiful, everyone else looked really cool too (seriously we have some well-dressed friends), my dress was floofy, everyone was nice, there was cake and dancing, and I'm still getting warm fuzzies thinking about it. Plus the three days in the Lake District afterwards were lovely. Couldn't be happier about the whole thing. :)

2) In other real-life news, I'm job hunting again, for really serious this time. I'm pretty happy with most aspects of my life but work-wise I'm going nowhere and I think it's time to do something about it. Mostly looking at editorial stuff, still, although as always I'm toying with the idea of teaching because I love doing it, but put off by all the crap I know comes with it.

3) Yuletide is getting into gear again - I've nominated Tenko, Seraphina, Swallows and Amazons and Moondreamers!

4) I'm pondering a potential vid and I'm looking for ideas - folks, tell me some of your favourite examples of the following in visual media:

* women supporting each other during tough times
* women encouraging each other to be brave
* women being brave in all sorts of ways, with or without help
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 Aaargh, so, our wedding reception venue is double-booked, and the alternative they offered us is... not that nice.

We are staying calm and exploring avenues but aargh. I was so pleased to have that part done and dusted.

On the plus side I've been getting a fair bit of writing done this last week or so, which is nice. And it's only a few weeks until the long Easter weekend. And then it's only a couple of weeks until we go to Rome! I would ask for suggestions of what to see, but [personal profile] carawj and the Classicists seem to have it pretty much sewn up. (Eeee old stuff!)
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Ahahahaha, yeah, I dropped the ball on this. And on blogging generally. WEDDING. (I will blame the wedding for everything I don't get around to doing until September. But we have a venue now!!)

So, here are the ones I was in the middle of:

Day 11  - Share a favourite piece of original canon and explain why you love it so much.

I know I go on about this, but I love this scene where Deanna beats Data at chess (although the comments on that video are infuriating...). This is one of my favourite kinds of scenes - it's clearly just a joke for the teaser, and it never comes up again, but it speaks volumes. Deanna can beat Data at chess. This suggests vast intelligence and ingenuity than normally we don't see Deanna getting to have. I know the scene is making a point about how sometimes intuition can count for more than knowledge, but even so, Data is, y'know, Data. It would be surprising for anyone on the ship to beat him at a game like chess. (Poker is different because it involves chance.)

I'd rather Deanna and characters like her were more often and more consciously given this sort of character development, but in the absence of that, I really enjoy these kinds of scenes that say a lot without meaning to. If they're not going to give me the scenes I want, then I'm going to work with what they do give me to make up what's missing. And from this scene I deduce that Deanna is a super-genius but just acts low-key about it. (Ask me sometime about my myriad ideas about Betazoid culture based on a few throwaway lines...)

Day 13 - Ask for recs.

Oooh, what to ask for? Well, I'm always on the lookout for more stories about the women of Star Trek. Also at the moment I'm really interested in stories about unconventional relationships - ones for which there's no cultural script to fall back on when deciding what to do and how to behave. So, relationships between people of different species, and how they work. Or between different categories of life forms entirely, like stories about relationships/sex between people and machines, be they androids, cyborgs or spacegoing vessels!

Day 15 - Share a favourite memory about fandom.

It's hard to choose - I've been in fandom for around ten years now and it's been a big part of my life. But I still have a lot of really good memories about Cosmic Cheerleaders, the Yahoo group about women in SF&F that I co-ran with my best friend from school. We had a lot of really great conversations, I connected with people and shared my opinions and feelings on media in a way that I hadn't really been able to before, and some of the people I met there are still my very good friends today. I've since found a lot of fandom spaces where I've felt at home and listened to, but that was the first real fandom community I was in and I still miss it.
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Since I've met quite a few new people on the friending post *waves* I thought I'd do a little introduction with a bit more about me! So, here goes:

About my journal:

I've been on LJ for the last ten years or so but at the moment I'm crossposting from DW and gradually moving over here. Lately I've been a little quiet but I'm hoping to change that. I post a mixture of fandom stuff and real life stuff. I used to tag properly on LJ, and I'm going to start doing it here too!

About me in fandom:

I was raised on a steady diet of Star Trek and it's been one of my primary fandoms for almost all of my life. For a while I cheated on it with Harry Potter fandom (or, more accurately, McGonagall and teacher femslash fandom...) and Doctor Who. Recent fannish discoveries include the Vorkosigan Saga, Warehouse 13 and Avatar: The Last Airbender.

In terms of fic etc, I write and read mostly femslash and fem-gen. I multiship and I like some poly relationships as well as a bit of het and m/m now and then. I also vid, and I'm interested to listen to more podfic. Most of my fanworks are HERE.

About my real life:

I live with and am engaged to [personal profile] carawj and I'll probably post about wedding stuff a bit in the next year or so. Most of my RL friends are also pretty fannish (and awesome) so I'll post about them now and then.

I am a sub-editor in media and I find it pretty dull so occasionally I'll rant about my job. My long-term plan is to make a living out of writing, so sometimes I'll talk about that too. Also I talk occasionally about health and family issues.

So, that's me! Hi!
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 So, in spite of my dorky and inept proposal, the other night [livejournal.com profile] carawj agreed to marry me! I don't know quite what I did to deserve someone so awesome, but there we go. ;D

So yes, very excited over here! :D



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